I am surprised by how much sex I have had in my life that I didn’t want to have. Not exactly what’s considered “real” rape, or “date” rape, although it is a kind of rape of the spirit - a dishonest portrayal or distortion of my own desire in order to appease another person.
I said yes because I felt it was too much trouble to say no. I said yes because I didn’t want to have to defend my “no,” qualify it, justify it - deserve it. I said yes because I thought I was so ugly and fat that I should just take sex every time it was offered, because who knew when it would be offered again. I said yes to partners I never wanted in the first place, because to say no at any point after saying yes for so long would make our entire relationship a lie, so I had to keep saying yes in order to keep the “no” I felt a secret. That is such a messed-up way to live, such an awful way to love.
So these days, I say yes only when I mean yes. It does require some vigilance on my part to make sure I don’t just go on sexual automatic pilot and let people do whatever. It forces me to be really honest with myself and others. It makes me remember that loving myself is also about protecting myself and defending my own borders. I say yes to me.

Margaret Cho, “Yes Means Yes”  (via myrisingvoice)

(Source: lalondes)

olha, é o seguinte

bananadaiquiri:

sei que tem uma galera aqui que não me segue no twitter ou no facebook, então taí o link do blog novo sobre feminismo e afins. voltei a escrever depois de um longo e tenebroso inverno :)

eliasericson:

A comic I made for Westpride last spring. 

Basically

Good character: *has one character flaw*
Fandom: This character is terrible--who's the REAL bad guy here?
Bad character: *lies, cheats, steals, pillages, murders*
Fandom: He had a really hard childhood okay

championofazura:

people wanting more non-offensive representation of bi/pan women in the media

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people calling lesbians ‘boring’ and insisting that canon lesbians are bi/pan and shipping them with men

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smolex:

'Excuse me sir, do you have a towel?'

smolex:

'Excuse me sir, do you have a towel?'

(Source: best-of-imgur)

harmonypowerhouse:

*develops new crush* *looks up star sign compatibility instead of actually talking to them*

(Source: r-roisin)

moriarty:

absentions:

And if you’re still up at 4 a.m.,

you are in love or lonely,

and I don’t know which one is worse.

im reading gay fanfic tho

(Source: absentions)